Monday, September 21, 2009

Who do you think is the real Domme?


Any idea how it comes these soles are wet?
I get frequently contacted by men who say I am their dream Domme, but when I tell them then to send Me some pics showing how their perfect Mistress should look like, these pics do not show real Mistresses, but rather professionals working hard to please subs. I must admit that some of these Woman look very nice and Dominant, but some things make me think it is all a scenery.

Do slaves really expect Us, Mistresses, to be skin and bones?
Do they really expect Us to look like these professional models who try to please the males?
Do they really expect Us to show ourselves half naked?
Do they really expect Us to walk in discomfort in those skyhigh heels?

And all that just because some slave likes that?

I conclude that most of these so called “slave” are looking for someone who looks like a Domme not One who treats them like a real slave to make then live their life only to please their Mistress.
I have experienced that good loyal trustworthy slaves are harder to find than the reactions via the net suggest!

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4 comments:

  1. There is a lot of fantasy involved because the reality of being a slave all the time is very hard on even a dedicated submissive. Even a slave might need to have a break and most of submissives are not sure if they could get such a break when their bodies and minds needed them. There is also the question of matching the right Mistress to the right slave. There are many slaves who would submit willingly, but they have some areas where they would not like to go. Many slaves cannot bear sissification or being ordered to have sex with another male. And they are afraid that they would be forced into these activities that horrify them and are against their nature. So they go to professionals to get what they need, even though they know it's just business that on the surface looks like their fantasy.

    As for physical attributes of Dommes, most of the slaves are like everybody else - they are sexually attracted to women who conform to their sexual ideal and that by no means means for every slave skinny and half naked women. A lot of men/slaves are attracted to voluptuous ladies, some to really obese ladies, but most are conditioned (like the majority of people) to the ideal propagated by the media. Each period has its own ideal - i.e. in the baroque era women who would be now considered obese were the ideal. And then there is the issue of personality. So I believe that slaves are not very different from the rest of population and that compatibility is the main issue here. And the road to good matches of Mistresses and slaves is open and honest communication.

    Sincerely, slave John B.

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  2. I believe that everyone has their own ideal of what type of Woman they are attracted to. But for me, it would not matter unless the Woman shows signs of being a dominant. And what is depicted by the media as dominant is far from what an actual lifestyle dominant looks like. And if She looks too good, once might assume that She is a professional. A bystander might not even notice Her on the street, particularly if She wishes to be anonymous. But given the chance to chat with Her, I believe that anyone of us could surely tell. All of our fantasies begin and reside in the brain. Often the reality does not quite live up to the fantasy. But when approaching this as a reality, I would much rather experience those desires firsthand, rather than keep them safely locked away for the rest of my life.

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  3. I love to think of a Domme as a pair of intimidating eyes... I think it is because I do believe that eyes reflect the temptations of the soul... Your photo in bed with your boot soles towering over my head is another POV I would love to have... Very mouthwatering...

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  4. mij maakt het niet uit hoe de Meesteres eruit ziet , ik heb liever natuurlijke Vrouwen.

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